Asian Shame Culture: Your Parents Didn’t Teach You Right

“Yes. They model after their parents. So whatever the parents do, the children will mimic. For example, if their parents have bad habits like smoking, drinking or gambling, they will also learn to do those things.”

They Don’t Mean to Push You Away, Adult Children

“Because you haven’t thought about us. Have you thought about how we felt when you made all your life decisions? You don’t even consider what we have to say, so of course, it’s hard for us to tell you anything.”

Don’t Kill My Emotions. Let Me Be Negative.

“Just let me be. Am I not allowed to be angry, upset or frustrated? This is how I express myself, just like when you screamed or punched me a few times. Don’t try to kill my emotions. I don’t have to be okay.”

Why It’s So Hard to Be Your Partner’s Best Friend

“Maybe it’s because if I were your friend, I’d like to know. Knowing hurts and makes me feel insecure, but I’d rather understand your pain than turning away.”

Why It’s OK to Seek Recognition

“Well, of course, all those things matter. That’s what society is after. It’s people like her who will succeed in life because she strives to climb the corporate ladder, to be successful and be rich.”

When You Won the Fight But Lost the Relationship

“No, I didn’t know. I thought things were going well. And I did ask her. I asked her to tell me her honest opinion, but she refused. All I had was the silence.” *still frowning*