Love Exists When You Are Free to Hate

“In that sense, it is extremely difficult. But why do people make it seem so easy? It’s like, we just take it for granted that a married couple should just love each other until deaths do them apart.”

Until Now, I’ve Thought All Rapists Should Die

“How could I look at my wife and make love to her, knowing that I’ve raped a woman just like her? How could I hold my children the way I used to, knowing that I’ve killed those innocent kids back in Vietnam?”

Don’t Kill My Emotions. Let Me Be Negative.

“Just let me be. Am I not allowed to be angry, upset or frustrated? This is how I express myself, just like when you screamed or punched me a few times. Don’t try to kill my emotions. I don’t have to be okay.”

Why It’s So Hard to Be Your Partner’s Best Friend

“Maybe it’s because if I were your friend, I’d like to know. Knowing hurts and makes me feel insecure, but I’d rather understand your pain than turning away.”

Why It’s OK to Seek Recognition

“Well, of course, all those things matter. That’s what society is after. It’s people like her who will succeed in life because she strives to climb the corporate ladder, to be successful and be rich.”

Relax, You Are Allowed to Hate Those You Love

“Just those things about… why are we even together? are we right for each other? maybe this is not going to work… yeah, you know I said them to hurt you back, right? Like I didn’t actually mean any of it…”

So You Hurt to Avoid Your Own Pain

That question hit me hard. Seven and a half years, we had never discussed either of our insecurities. We prided ourselves being the most stable couple for not fighting, but what we were really doing was avoiding.

The Hard Truth About Long Distance Relationships

“I’d say let’s take it one step at a time, but I also don’t want to be naively optimistic. Based on my experience, if we couldn’t make this a short-distance, the chances are we may not be together a year or two from now.”