Forgive us, for we did not know our own biases.
Some people might experience this more often than others, but I believe we all can recall moments when our mind can’t seem to shut down and go to sleep. For me, tonight is one of those moments…
My Devil: Are you sure your advice and interpretation of him were without bias? *smirked*
My Angel: I think so? I mean, it’s very difficult to be be objective if the person is someone you are close to. But at least, I was very genuine when I offered the advice. *worried*
My Devil: Of course you were genuine. *sarcastic smile* I’m sure your unconscious didn’t mean to manipulate him with your “kind” advice.
My Angel: Hey! That’s not fair. How would I know if I’m biased if the biases live in my unconscious? *protested loudly*
My Devil: Right, so stop pretending to be a saint thinking you know better. *torn off angel’s halo with a quick swipe*
They tell us not to take comments too personally. Those people don’t know us; they judge based on what they see.
But what about people who do know us?
They think they have our best interest in mind, but what about their interest? Isn’t everyone selfish?
Once in a while, you come across a company culture that is so toxic, you wake up dreading to go to work. Having a genuine friend, the kind beyond small talks, makes everything seems more bearable…
She: Guess what? I just got off the phone with the recruiter. Remember that job I told you about? *plopped down her lunch bag and a banana*
Me: Yes, of course! What did the recruiter say?
She: The company likes my profile and wants me to come in for an interview! *announced excitedly*
Me: That’s amazing! I’m so happy for you! It’s a great opportunity! Good luck! *pretend high-pitch voice hoping my jealousy didn’t spill onto the lunch table*
How can we be honest?
If given a second chance, I promise to change the dialogue.
“I’m so happy for you, but at the same time, I’m jealous and sad that you would be getting a new job and leaving me behind.”
= Know our biases
+ Face our emotions
Or maybe the view through an objective lens is also a biased stance?