Unlocking Extroverts’ Introversion

To be born an extrovert was a blessing until I read her book.

Gifting books is a tricky matter.

First, you need to make sure the person is at least interested in reading. Spending time on reddit or news articles may be a good sign.

Second, do you two enjoy the same genre of books? A reader who is into non-fiction may not ever walk into the business section in a bookstore.

Wondering if this book would end up collecting dust in the corner of the room, I decided that it’s worth the risk…

Me: Hey, I know you said the last time you enjoyed reading was when you were 5, but our conversations kept reminding me of this book. *slid the book across*

He: In Japanese! Thank you… no one’s ever… *teary*

Actually, I read Susan Cain’s book on a treadmill. More precisely, I listened to a narrator reading it to me as I ran.

Being an extreme extrovert (according to multiple personality tests), I thought reading Quiet would shed some insights on those with opposite tendencies.

Little did I know, it embarked on a journey of self-discovery.

Narrator: Introverts recharge by spending time alone in a calm and quiet environment while extroverts feel energized around people.

But I’m both!

Narrator: Extroversion and introversion are a personality spectrum. No one is fully one or the other. We all possess both tendencies in different situations.


Narrator: The western world promotes and encourages extroverted personality. Many introverts feel the pressure to change and fit in.

And that influence has spread to Asia.

Photo by Fabio Comparelli on Unsplash

I recalled early memories of spending hours at the bookstore with my sister while my parents roam around the mall. I remembered a time when I felt perfectly at ease with myself sketching artificial apples at the elementary school art club.

Since when did I begin to minimize all my introverted qualities?

What triggered me to pride myself as an extrovert?

The answers seemed unimportant compared to the relief and comfort Quiet had given me.

What I heard she said was

Be yourself.

Thank you, Susan Cain, for writing Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking.

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